Calm Kid Central

Helping anxious, frustrated and “tricky” kids
feel calm, confident and co-operative.

Does any of this sound familiar?

Your 5 to 11 year old child:

  • Often worries and/or feels anxious
  • Has a hard time dealing with frustration and disappointment
  • Has difficulty stopping what they are doing and/or managing changes in routine
  • Is prone to huge meltdowns - yells/hits/stomps/screams
  • Sometimes finds getting along with friends or peers tough
  • Often talks negatively about themselves/life - and doesn't feel good about themselves
  • Finds school work hard or boring or pointless.
  • Might have been given a diagnosis of  an anxiety disorder, ASD, ADHD, ODD, sensory processing problems or speech/language delay.  But regardless - what you know is that they don't think, feel, cope or learn quite the same way as other kids.  

Kirrilie June 2015As experienced child psychologists we have been talking to, supporting and working with kids and parents like yourself for more than 20 years.

We can Help

Calm Kid Central helps kids in THREE important ways.

1. We help children understand and manage feelings

We have put together videos for your children to help them understand worry, cope with stress, act more calmly and behave in positive ways. These 2-5 minute animations have been carefully designed to help 5 to 11 year olds learn about emotions and positive behaviour.

They will learn why and how they worry or get frustrated, how to get better at keeping/making friends, how to act calmly when they are frustrated and how to feel more confident about themselves.

Each video is accompanied by a "important questions guide" for parents.  You watch the short video with your child (on your phone/their ipad) and then ask them the questions listed in the guide.   These are not long exercises, they've been designed so they can be done while waiting for an appointment, while on the drive to school, for a couple of minutes before bed. But it's amazing the things that come out in a five minute conversation when we ask kids the right questions. Press play below to see some samples of videos available on Calm Kid Central.

2. We Help Parents to Support and "Get through" to Kids

We have created a library of 3-10 minute videos, printables and handouts for adults (parents and professionals) to give them fast, practical tips and ideas about how to support, work with and talk to kids struggling with worry, stress, frustration or tricky behaviour.  Videos can be watched on your mobile  /device anytime, anywhere.

Video titles include:

Each video includes: A "real life" section with an audio recorded conversation with real parent/child A full Transcript of the text to print out Downloadables/printables for the fridge with points to remember, questions to ask and strategies to use and remember the ideas in the videos. Click below for some sample videos for adults available on Calm Kid Central.

3. We Answer Parent Questions

We know that talking to a child psychologist is not easy.  There's travel, cost, availability, fitting in with work and more.  And often you don't need therapy.  With Calm Kid Central, you log in on your mobile phone or from work/home and post any question that you have about kids, their behaviour, their stress, tricky situations and managing tough emotions.

Out panel of experienced and fully qualified child psychologists (from the Developing Minds Clinics in South Australia) will carefully read and answer your questions as soon as possible. We are not providing therapy on this discussion board - we are giving you information about child development, how we normally work with children and families in our clinics and why/how children's behaviour happens and what parents can do.

We guarantee to respond to all questions within 48 hours -  for 48 weeks of the year.





You can also read through questions posted by other parents like you.

You will see our past answers to those questions.  We will also ask our community of parents (just like yourself) to chip in with what has worked for them.

If you wish, you will get the opportunity to connect with other parents who have kids struggling with the same things as your children do.

By the way - be aware you don't have to personally identify yourself in our community.  And these questions and answers are only open to our paid members in the private, secure, closed forum.

So you can ask questions without feeling embarrassed or worried about being judged or evaluated.


There are no stupid questions.
No questions too big.
No questions too small.

Here's some examples of questions you might ask our psychologists +

My 7 yo hates doing his reader, we have a battle every night. How can I get him to just do it, it takes so long to argue about it, he may as well just do it!

My 11yo constantly fights and is mean to her sister. She takes every opportunity to pick on her – and her sister looks up to her and adores her. I have told her off about it, tried to talk with her about it and rewarded and punished her. Nothing makes a difference! She just seems to hate her and I have no idea why. It’s awful to watch.

What do you do with kids that have massive meltdowns????

I have a 5 year old who is scared of sleeping in her own bed. She mostly sleeps with us or with her big sister. I’m not sure what to do, and whether to push this or not.

I have a child on the spectrum who has real problems with sensory overload. He gets extremely upset if it is too noisy or bright and will cry and run away, and yell. This is a problem at school and the teachers don’t understand. He is always getting in trouble at school, and now he hates it. He also doesn’t seem to have any friends at school, which doesn’t seem to bother him but I worry about him being alone at recess and lunch. I don’t feel like his teachers have ever understood him and we keep getting negative reports about him. He is mostly okay at home.

My child is 9 and he just does not listen. Whenever anything doesn’t go his way, he gets very angry and screams and yells. I’ve videoed his meltdowns because they are extreme and can go for hours. He destroys things and it’s scary. I’ve been to see a child psychologist before and they were no help.

My 10 year old daughter hates it when I go out, or away. She will constantly ask me how long I’m going for, how long I’m going to go for and where I’m going. Once I’m gone, she will text me constantly and worries the whole time. She won’t sleep until I’m back. She thinks I might be in a car accident or hurt – even though that’s never happened. She is very clingy generally. How can I help her be less worried?

My 11 year old is extremely anxious about homework and school work. He spends literally hours on his homework, deletes everything and starts again. I try to help him and it just ends up with me yelling at him and him yelling at me saying I don’t understand. When tests happen he is awake for hours worrying about them. He gets excellent grades in every report and his Dad and I repeatedly tell him it doesn’t matter. I just want him to stop stressing – it’s not even high school yet.

My 8 year old just doesn’t listen to me. He won’t do anything I ask him and he is completely obsessed with video games. He has total tantrums whenever I ask him to get off. He isn’t interested in doing anything else at all, and just waits around until he can play again. He won’t read, play outside or do ANYTHING else. I hate those games, and I feel like just saying he can’t play them at all.

I know my 7 year old is smart, but he is struggling at school. He is in the lowest reading group and his teacher said he is below where he should be. He is so good at thinking outside the square and when you talk to him, you can tell he is really intelligent – but none of this comes out at school.

Testimonials about Calm Kid Central educational services and resources

Please note that Calm Kid Central is an educational service (not a therapy service) and the testimonials below are about this program, and not about Developing Minds therapy services.

I really liked the regular emails with relevant information, the range of info on the website (so I can spent a short time watching a video or spend longer looking into the areas I need support with). There is also a wide range of topics to provide relevant info in different situations (including really difficult issues like self harm in children).

Kirsty Parent

Calm Kid Central is interactive, up to date and helps students, parents and children. It has helped me really help the students I work with. I'm enjoying using the videos to help children learn social skills...I would recommend it to any school well being staff.

R. Fairlie Community Carer

I am always excited to get the Calm Kid Central emails with the "video of the week". They always contain pearls of wisdom.. Your work is my "go to" when something new pops up for my kids.

S. Evans Parent

These posts are, in a word, priceless. They are an absolute game changer. Keep it up. Hats off.

Claude Dametto Parent

I am so glad I signed up to Calm Kid Central.  I started with a month just to see if I would use the site and have found that I’m using it every day for kids, parents, and/or teachers.  The video’s are great, and the kids love them, and the extra resources to I’m using all the time too.  Thanks so much for providing an excellent resource, I will be subscribing for a year when my month runs out!!


I really liked the access to useful & relateable information directed at both parents and kids, and the individualised service. Also the kind and respectful tone (non-judgmental).

- Kate

Frequently Asked Questions

Q1. Are all the videos and resources available as soon as I sign up? Will there be more released? +

Yes, all of our existing videos and resources are instantly available after you sign up and log in.  And yes, there will be new videos and resources are released each month. These will be listed as "coming soon".

Q2. What if I sign up and then don't find any of the resources helpful? +

As child psychologists who have been working with families and professionals for 20 years, we have designed our videos and resources very carefully to make sure they are useful, reassuring and helpful.  We will be very upset if you disagree!  But if you do - that's completely fine.  We have a 30 day money back guarantee.  Just email us at within 30 days of signing up and let us know you haven't found the resources helpful and we will refund your money, no questions asked.

Q3. What if I want to cancel my membership? +

You can cancel your membership at any time by simply clicking on "cancel" in your dashboard. You can also just "pause" your membership if you would like to take a break for a month or two.

Q4. How do I pay? Are there any extra charges? +

You pay using either your credit card or a paypal account.  Your credit card or paypal will be charged every 30 days (or once a year, if you sign up for the annual membership) for the amount advertised, with no extra charges applied

Q5. I have a child diagnosed with an anxiety disorder,autism, ADHD, learning disorder, speech and language disorder or global delay. Will Calm Kid Central still be useful for my family? +

Yes.  We work with hundreds of children each year with these diagnoses, and in Australia see children under the National Disability Insurance scheme.  We are very familiar with the particular issues that these children have and are conscious of making sure our adult and child resources have information that applies directly to this group of families.

Q6. Can I use Calm Kid Central instead of taking my child to therapy? +

Probably not.

It's important to know that Calm Kid Central is NOT therapy.  We don't have you or your child in the room, we haven't conducted an assessment and can't talk with you in real time.  This means there are limits to what we can do.  For example, if there is a safety issue for your child, getting help over the internet is never a good idea and we recommend you see someone in person as soon as possible. Understanding this is part of the conditions for accessing this site.

However, there are some families who don't need one on one therapy. In this case, Calm Kid Central can potentially be an extremely useful way to support and help kids and parents.  We can provide ideas, information and reassurance.  Often families see a therapist in person as well as belong to Calm Kid Central.

Q8. I'm worried about my privacy, I don't want everyone to know about the questions and struggles I have with my child - or my students/clients. +

We encourage members to use an alias online.  This way you won't accidentally identify your child or yourself - and you can feel free to ask any questions without feeling worried that about being judged negatively in some way.

However, it is important to know that we have talked to literally thousands of families - and hundreds of professionals - over 20 years, and chances are - whatever you or your child/student/client is struggling with - you are not alone.  In this way, seeing other parents and professionals' questions can be very reassuring.

One final note - it is important to know that like all professionals, we are mandated notifiers of child abuse.  This means that if we receive information on this site that a child is being abused, then we are legally obliged to report this (which we will do using the details you give us when signing up for the site).  This happens very rarely, but it is important to know upfront.


Q9. Who is the behind this site? Who creates the resources? And what is Developing Minds Psychology? +

My name is Kirrilie Smout. I'm a child psychologist from Adelaide, Australia. I've spent more than 20 years working with families and now direct the Developing Minds team. Our team consists of 12 child psychologists (many of whom also provide resources and answer questions here at Calm Kid Central) who see more than 150 families each week, and provide training and supervision to other professionals who work with kids.

I've also presented seminars and training to more than 50 thousand students (and their teachers and parents) in schools across Australia to help them learn to manage their difficult emotions and challenges in life. All these experiences have been a privilege for me. I've learnt an amazing amount about families, and this has helped me write several books about and for children.



Q10. Do I have to download any programs or software? +

No, there is no downloading of programs or software.  Provided you have an internet connection everything is streamed directly to your phone or computer.  Everything is optimised for mobile phones too - so you can watch/listen while you are out of the house.

Q12. Why did you create Calm Kid Central? +

In mid 2015 I worked with a family in a rural area via skype.  We discovered that private health cover didn't allow them to claim their sessions and I was really disappointed for them.  I started thinking that there must be a better way - and the idea of Calm Kid Central  was born. I was hoping that we could start to help families and professionals who not only live in rural areas; but who can't afford to get to make an appointment; work full time and are time poor; work fly in/fly out jobs - or for whatever reason can't attend our clinics in an ongoing basis. This means we can provide support, answers, supervision and education to many more people.

Our team of psychologists really do care about the young people they work with, and I have all my fingers and toes crossed that Calm Kid Central helps us ultimately reach and support hundreds of kids to feel calmer, more confident and act in more positive ways.

Q13. I have more questions about Calm Kid Central, how do I get in touch with you? +

We are real people here and answer our phone and emails!  If you have any questions about Calm Kid Central, then you can contact us anytime at

You can also call us during business hours 9-5pm AEST on 08 8357 1711


Simple Pricing (Parents)

Monthly Membership
  • * Billed monthly - cancel anytime
  • * Learning Centre for Parents
  • * Learning Centre for Kids
  • * Question/Discussion Centre (ask questions of our child psychologists)
  • *Transcripts of all Parent Videos
  • *Tip/Cheat Sheets for Fridge
  • *Essential Questions Guide for each video (start important discussions with kids)
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Cancel Anytime -  no questions asked.

Annual Membership
  • * Same membership - but billed annually (save $164)
  • * Learning Centre for Parents
  • * Learning Centre for Kids
  • * Question/Discussion Centre (ask questions of our child psychologists)
  • *Transcripts of all Parent Videos
  • *Tip/Cheat Sheets for Fridge
  • *Essential Questions Guide for each video (start important discussions with kids)
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Cancel Anytime -  no questions asked.

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The program and pricing listed above is for parents and personal use only.

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What will happen when I Sign Up? 

  1. You will be taken to conditions of use and then payment page (credit card or paypal).

  2. You will fill in a short, anonymous questionnaire about how you/your child is going.

  3. You will get an email with your username and password - which you can then use to logon to the site immediately.

  4. You and your child/children can use Calm Kid Central 24/7 until your subscription expires!!